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SoulStrip & The Inner Voice Forum as the Core of Our Training Having a strong core team is crucial for the way we want to grow — with integrity, accountability, care, and the right amount of edginess. In February, our entire team spent an intensive week together on the farm...

Over the years, I have had the privilege of learning from different traditions, teachers, and lineages—each with its own language, cultural context, and way of pointing. While Slow Sex Practices, Voice Dialogue, and the Bwiti tradition originate from very different worlds, they share a fundamental understanding: the soul is not...

Hello dear ones, We hope you all had a nourishing start to the new year, filled with love and meaningful connections. Mine began with a lot of self-care and spacious me time. Something I promised myself when I turned 40 last year: every January I gift myself hibernation—no computer work, fewer...

Dear ones, Before we enter the Christmas holidays, we want to take a moment with you to celebrate the Slow Sex team — and you as our community. This year, team building has taken up most of our energy — in the best possible way. The solidity of the core team is...

In intimate spaces—whether in sexuality, relationship work, or deep emotional processing—the quality of presence we bring determines the depth of connection that becomes possible. In my last Museletter, I explored the FAWN response as a survival strategy that often shows up in sex-positive spaces, creating confusion and, at times, deep...

Understanding our own survival strategies — what triggers them and how they play out in our relationships — is a vital foundation within the art of relating.The more we are in touch with our own strategies, the better we can recognize them in others. Especially for facilitators in sex-positive spaces, it’s absolutely...

Living in the countryside of the southern Algarve, the destructive force of summer wildfires has become part of our reality. In the ten years since I moved here, our community has already faced two existential threats from the fire element. The first time was in 2020. My son was still...

When I think about the Slow Sex Movement, I think of Elena. She is, to me, its very embodiment. With her presence, her wisdom, and her gentle yet powerful way of being, she reminds me again and again why this path matters. Elena has been walking alongside me from the...

In the last two MUSELETTERS I shared about a special offering we’ve been carefully developing behind the scenes. Today, I’m excited to finally open the curtain and share the first pioneering case study that has emerged from this work. The story of Jonathan, Nina, and Mae is not just personal...

While traveling through Thailand with my 12-year-old son, we kept running into the same confronting image: older white men sitting in bars, flanked by young Thai women. The cliché was everywhere — and he was disturbed. “Why would such a young, beautiful woman want to have sex with that man?”...