Dear ones,
As the first month of the year is slowing ending, I bear more reflections on the growth of our business. Cleary observing it comes with the invitation to constantly check in with our core values and to hold ourselves accountable for our actions. Therefore, working in a group is crucial. We are not only business partners, we are also accountability partners.
That means we have regular check ins. After every Slow Sex Practice in Amsterdam, Anneke and Ellie share with me in form of a voice message how the evening went - what they celebrate about the facilitation and the space holding as well as the learning they have received from the group and the practice. The practice, the way we offer it today, has been refined over many years and the direct feedback from the participants has played a major role.
Every Ship Needs a Captain
The Slow Sex Practice is one big ongoing dynamic co-creation. Yes, there is a system and yes, there is a structure and a methodology that I have developed over almost a decade. However, every system and every methodology needs to adapt to the current time if it wants to stay up to date. I personally don’t believe neither in dogmas nor in gurus.
Every ship needs a captain that knows where the journey is going. The knowing is an inner knowing that is regularly updated and stems from the connection with the higher source. And yet, every captain needs to listen carefully and wants to actively consider the voices of the people around. In order to stay in alignment with the greater vision.
Growing with our community in mind
Money and the greed of wanting more of it can be a threat to the set of values. How much are you willing to compromise on the quality of the individual for the sake of enriching the business? The Slow Sex Practice is becoming more and more popular. Whereas in the past we were rarely sold out we are more and more hitting our maximum amount of people. Which feels great.
At the moment, we are having the discussion how many people our space in Amsterdam can hold. Not just in terms of actual space but also energetically. We want to make sure that especially the people that have been showing up with a lot of commitment on a regular basis will experience the growth as enrichment and not as turn off.
The spaceholders are key, Thank you!
A big thanks goes also to the amazing space holders that have been supporting the Slow Sex Movement. As we grow, we need more and more people that hold the space with us. Spaceholding is a skill on its own and not just something anyone can do. Apart from understanding the flow of the event to be able to serve on a practical level, it is also important to be able to energetically read the group, to feel what is needed in every moment.
For that the spaceholder has to be extremely mindful of his/her/their own inner world as well as of the surrounding. A good space holder needs to be trauma-informed in order to be able to assist the facilitator when there is someone in need of direct care.
