Dear you,
This year, I am opening the doors to something deeply personal:
the birth of my book, mindFUCK
And I would love nothing more than to share this moment with you.
a process of creation (and everything it touched)
When I began writing last year, I made a quiet promise to myself:
to let it be fun.
To not get lost in outcome or pressure—
but to stay close to the process,
to the here and now,
to the source.
And truthfully…
so much of it was that.
It was liberating, revealing, exciting.
It felt like something was moving through me rather than coming from me.
And at the same time,
it brought friction.
It touched places in my life, in my relationships,
that asked to be seen, felt, worked through.
Some of those edges I could meet and integrate.
Others are still in repair… or on hold.
And I trust that.
I trust time more than anything.
And I trust the timing of this book.
walking the edge (and the parts that came with it)
This process brought many inner voices forward.
One I know very well:
the part that is afraid to be too much.
The part that worries about being misunderstood,
about stepping outside of what is accepted,
and therefore risking disconnection from the community.
Because this work is edgy.
It is not mainstream.
It touches places that can trigger.
And I actually believe that where we are triggered,
there is potential for growth.
But it also asks something from me.
To feel the field.
To sense where people are.
To stretch… without overstretching.
To care for those already at the edge,
while still inviting others into expansion.
This is delicate work.
It asks for a deep listening.
A kind of Fingerspitzengefühl that I am continuously learning to refine.
how deeply supported I am
If there is one thing this process has shown me, it is this:
I am not doing this alone.
I want to take a moment to honour the people who held me along the way.
Mattie — my love.
Your quiet, steady support is the ground beneath everything I create.
From caring for my son, to bringing me tea in the morning and warm water at night,
to simply believing in me… so deeply.
My parents —
even when my work is not fully understood,
you show up in your own ways. And that means more than you know.
Alex and Andreas —
for your sharp minds, your honesty, your willingness to challenge me.
You stretched me, and I needed that.
Juno —
for opening doors into the world of self-publishing so generously.
And also my teacher and mentor
Robert Stamboliev — whose work in Voice Dialogue has profoundly shaped the foundation of what I do.
The depth, precision, and energetic understanding he brings into working with inner parts continues to guide me in refining this method and in trusting the intelligence of the psyche.
And many more…
who held me in ways big and small.
the vulnerability of self-publishing
Choosing to self-publish this book is an act of both courage and freedom.
It means I carry the costs.
The design, the printing, the production.
And at the same time,
it gives me the freedom to write exactly what wants to be written.
Unfiltered.
Uncompromised.
Alive.
this is where you come in
If you feel connected to me, to this work, to this field we are building together…
there are simple and powerful ways you can support:
Come to the book launch
This will be my personal highlight of the year.
Spread the word
Invite friends who might resonate.
Gift the book
To someone who would appreciate it.
This book is not only for experts.
It is layered.
You can dive into the method,
or simply read the fantasies and reflections.
You can be touched by the images,
or use the workbook to begin your own exploration.
the evening itself
We will gather at Salon Ruigoord
An evening where I will share the essence of the SEXplorer Method—
and open a window into the world of sexual fantasy as a path of self-discovery.
There will be readings.
And space to feel, to land, to connect.
And then…
we celebrate.
I feel so excited (truly!) that my dear friends
Reine and Shai Peri
are coming all the way from Portugal to create music together.
What they weave is something very special—
electronic sounds and live violin,
movement, emotion, aliveness.
For me, it also feels like something deeper:
bringing my Portugal community and my Amsterdam community together.
Building bridges.
Feeling supported in my growth.
Because we cannot do this alone.
And especially when we walk at the edges—
it can feel like a lonely place.
This is why community matters so much.
a special offering
Alongside the book, I am opening a more intimate way to work with the method:
You can send me your sexual fantasy
and I will respond with a therapeutic reflection using the SEXplorer Method.
Or—
I can help you create a fantasy based on what excites you,
and guide you into understanding it.
This is a written or voice-based exchange (no session),
and it is a very personal and powerful doorway into your inner world.
Investment: 150 Euros
If I create a fantasy for you and you also wish to receive a reflection/analysis,
this is an additional 150 Euros.
Send an email to katjalisa@slowsex.me
If you feel called into a deeper journey,
you are always welcome to reach out for 1:1 work.
why this work matters to me
At the heart of everything I do is a simple, yet profound belief:
That our erotic intelligence—
our sexual energy—
is not just about sex.
It is life energy.
It is creativity.
Truth.
Movement.
Connection.
When we learn to listen to it,
to work with it consciously,
to bring awareness into our fantasies, desires, and inner worlds…
something shifts.
We become more real.
More embodied.
More honest.
And from there,
a new culture of relating can emerge.
One that is not based on performance or conditioning—
but on presence, truth, and aliveness.
