Dear ones,
Happy New Year! Initiation rituals are crucial to consciously celebrate the transition from one phase to the other. For girls, the first bleed is such a moment of initiation that is celebrated in many cultures in many different ways. Starting to bleed means you are officially transitioning from being a girl into becoming a woman. Your body is preparing to create life.
In the last years, we’ve witnessed a growing understanding mostly in the more conscious communities about the importance of rights of passages. However, there is much less attention given to the boys. When my son heard about all the special things being created around the first bleed for the girls, he asked: “Mom, and what is there for us boys?”
I brought this question to Tamera, an internationally known community in Portugal that researches new ways of relating and has become an important hands on research lab on how to restore natural eco systems and human relations. They humbly had to admit that in the 40 years they had been active as a community they have not created anything for the first ejaculation of the boys which would be the equivalent to the first bleed of the girls.
Thailand as Initiation Present for my Son
I consciously chose Thailand as a destination as I very much appreciate the self care that is embodied in Thai culture, no matter what gender: massages, manicure, pedicure, face & body scrub is part of their daily routine. Also, the core values that are reflected by the Buddhist philosophy as a way of life are very close to my heart and, believe it or not, very close to the core values of the Slow Sex Movement. More on Buddhism and Slow Sex in another MUSELETTER!
Our Family Time Was Worth Gold
Being away from our comfort zone created a new kind of connection and opened the energetic field for deep conversations to arise that we probably would not have had otherwise. It’s been a pleasure to witness my son opening up to receiving abundantly—from massages over mango smoothies to motherly hugs.
At the same time there have been great opportunities to practice boundaries. After a first embarrassing experience where the masseuse pulled down his underpants to put the towel so the oil wouldn’t damage his clothes he learned that he could come up for himself next time and express his needs beforehand. You are in charge of your own experience!
Transitioning
The transition from being with the three of us to being just me was unexpectedly hard. My heart has been heavy already days before the goodbye and I cried and cried and cried many tears. Every transition is a little death. And every little death hurts.
This period of travelling in the way we’ve experienced it will never come back. What was still real yesterday, is only a memory today. At the same time, every transition is the possibility for a new beginning. While I dry my tears and kiss my motherly heart, I slowly prepare for my 2-week course with Mantak Chia about sexual alchemy that will start soon. I’ll stay in a cozy cabin with a garden tub fed by natural hot springs, overlooking the stunning mountains of Pai, embracing this transition with grace.
Navigating Transitions
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Slow down: Allow yourself to feel the grief and other emotions.
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Honor: Cherish the memories and their impact, journalling is great!
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Reframe: See endings as space for new beginnings.
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Ground: Find joy in the present moment.
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Self care: Nurture yourself with simple rituals (such as baths ;))
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Forward: Take small steps toward what’s next.
Transitions hurt but hold the seeds of transformation.
Update on theEDGE
We are also in transition with theEDGE. After our soft launch only a couple of weeks ago we ran into some unforeseen technical problems. Stripe, our payment provider informed us that due to the “sexually-related” content on our platform they cannot offer their services to us. Even though we told them that the content was purely educational and that there wasn’t any explicit nudity or pornographic content (actually, the goddam opposite!), they still pulled the plug.
Which means we got amazing new content lined up but so far, no way to receive any payments. As we are bootstrapping the business meaning we don’t work with investors we have to finance the whole project ourselves. All the content creation, filming, editing, technical stuff etc happens besides our other work.
That’s one reason why things move slowly. Which we celebrate in a fast moving world. Yet, we feel a little discouraged and unsupported by the universe. That’s why we decided to pause until I am back from Thailand and then figure out solutions and new ways to move forward. We appreciate your patience and are grateful for your support!
