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Our ethics & values
Creating a new culture of relating – together
The Slow Sex Movement is both a deeply personal journey and a shared community practice.
With the generous support of our trusted community, we’ve spent years exploring what it truly means to create a safe, inclusive space. Safety isn’t one-size-fits-all – it’s a lived, individual experience. As the founder, I (Katjalisa) hold the frame and offer tools to empower our group in co-creating spaces where everyone feels respected, supported, and welcome – just as they are.
Together, we are building a new culture of relating. A culture rooted in radical care, healing intimacy, deep listening, and mutual accountability.
Trauma-informed and non-hierarchical
We operate from a non-hierarchical, collaborative foundation. Every voice matters. Our facilitators and space holders are not above the group, but within it – participating, listening, learning, and evolving alongside you.
All members of our team are trauma-informed and committed to continued learning. We actively seek guidance from experts, listen to feedback from participants, peers, and colleagues, and reflect deeply on our own impact. Mistakes are not avoided – they are embraced as opportunities for growth. We’re here to do the work, continuously and with humility.
The importance of consent & boundaries
In our experience, even in sex-positive environments, old wounds can surface. That’s why consent and boundary work are non-negotiable fundamentals at every event – no matter your level of experience. We all have more to learn.
You have the right to say “no.” And that “no” will be honored. Equally, we respect our own boundaries and model what that looks and feels like.
Confidentiality & respect
We ask everyone who joins our spaces to honor the following principles:
Confidentiality: What is shared in the space stays in the space. Speak freely about your own experience, but do not name or describe others unless you have their explicit consent.- Consent & respect: Always honor your own “no” and the “no” of others. No explanation needed.
- Shared responsibility: We are each responsible for our actions. Harmful behavior will be addressed clearly and immediately, with the group’s well-being at heart.
- Facilitator participation: Space holders may participate in exercises when needed (e.g. if numbers are uneven), always with transparency and integrity.
- Free flow/love jam agreements:
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- Facilitators may engage in non-sexual, consensual connection (e.g. dance, massage, cuddling, energetic exchange).
- Sexual interaction between facilitators and participants only occurs if a pre-existing sexual connection was established before the event.
- At least one designated space holder is always energetically holding the room during free flow.
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Aftercare: Because we truly care
After every event, aftercare is offered and encouraged. We genuinely care about how you're doing — emotionally, physically, spiritually.
You’re invited to share your experience via voice message with the leading facilitator of the event you attended, where you can clarify questions, integrate emotions, or just reconnect. If needed, you’re welcome to book a private follow-up session or receive referrals to certified trauma therapists and sexological bodyworkers in our trusted network.
Slow growth with integrity
We’re not in a rush. We grow slowly and organically to preserve the care and integrity that define our spaces. As our community expands, so does our accountability.
We welcome your radical, respectful, honest feedback at any time — whether you're a participant, a fellow facilitator, a therapist, or simply someone who cares. Your voice helps us refine, reflect, and evolve.
We believe that when facilitators, educators, and practitioners from diverse schools, traditions, and communities come together, we can build a more sane, conscious, and inclusive sexual culture. A culture that challenges abuse of power, spiritual bypassing, manipulation, and exclusion.
We can only do this together
This is not just my vision — it's our shared mission. To create healing intimacy. To remember our wholeness. To rewrite our body memories. To offer each other safety, nourishment, and joy.
We are here — learning, unlearning, and holding each other through the tender, wild, sacred work of being human, together.
With love and devotion,
Katjalisa
Founder of the Slow Sex Movement
