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In intimate spaces—whether in sexuality, relationship work, or deep emotional processing—the quality of presence we bring determines the depth of connection that becomes possible. In my last Museletter, I explored the FAWN response as a survival strategy that often shows up in sex-positive spaces, creating confusion and, at times, deep...

Understanding our own survival strategies — what triggers them and how they play out in our relationships — is a vital foundation within the art of relating.The more we are in touch with our own strategies, the better we can recognize them in others. Especially for facilitators in sex-positive spaces, it’s absolutely...

Living in the countryside of the southern Algarve, the destructive force of summer wildfires has become part of our reality. In the ten years since I moved here, our community has already faced two existential threats from the fire element. The first time was in 2020. My son was still...

When I think about the Slow Sex Movement, I think of Elena. She is, to me, its very embodiment. With her presence, her wisdom, and her gentle yet powerful way of being, she reminds me again and again why this path matters. Elena has been walking alongside me from the...

In the last two MUSELETTERS I shared about a special offering we’ve been carefully developing behind the scenes. Today, I’m excited to finally open the curtain and share the first pioneering case study that has emerged from this work. The story of Jonathan, Nina, and Mae is not just personal...

While traveling through Thailand with my 12-year-old son, we kept running into the same confronting image: older white men sitting in bars, flanked by young Thai women. The cliché was everywhere — and he was disturbed. “Why would such a young, beautiful woman want to have sex with that man?”...

Being able to create life through life is pure magic. Two beings merge. Another being gets sparked into cosmic existence. For many couples, though, receiving a soul and carrying it through the first twelve weeks of pregnancy comes with challenges, heartache, and heartbreak. Thirteen years ago, my very first pregnancy...

The world outside doesn’t always feel like the safest place to explore new parts of yourself. When you start tuning into your body, your boundaries, your truth—it can feel like trying to whisper in the middle of a storm. That’s why we created The Practice and the Saturday Specials: real, embodied spaces where...

Many of you have asked: What happens in a plant ceremony? Working with sacred plant medicine feels, to me, like midwifing a birth—only that what’s being born is a deeper version of yourself. Each ceremony is a unique and mysterious unfolding. You never quite know what will emerge—and that’s precisely the...

The Slow Sex Movement is all about creating a new culture of relating. Most people that join our events and that work one on one with me are grown up adults that want to de-condition themselves by de-constructing their patterns and re-writing their script. The older we are when we...