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Dear you, This year, I am opening the doors to something deeply personal:the birth of my book, mindFUCK And I would love nothing more than to share this moment with you. a process of creation (and everything it touched) When I began writing last year, I made a quiet promise to...

In my work, I meet many people with sexual trauma who are trying to find their way back to intimacy and sexual connection. When traumatic experiences remain unspoken for a long time—especially when they occurred in early childhood—they can leave deep imprints. Often, people don’t even remember exactly what happened....

Why Sex-Positive Spaces Can Feel Overwhelming or Unsafe Especially for people who carry trauma in their system, group spaces—particularly sex-positive ones—can be highly activating. These environments often invite openness, vulnerability, touch, visibility, and intimacy. While this can be deeply healing, it can also directly touch the very places where the...

How we self-celebrate and how we give & receive feedback shapes the world we create together. Giving and receiving feedback is an art — and like every art, it requires practice, presence, and devotion. Within the Slow Sex Movement, we are cultivating a feedback culture where every inner part is seen,...

SoulStrip & The Inner Voice Forum as the Core of Our Training Having a strong core team is crucial for the way we want to grow — with integrity, accountability, care, and the right amount of edginess. In February, our entire team spent an intensive week together on the farm...

Over the years, I have had the privilege of learning from different traditions, teachers, and lineages—each with its own language, cultural context, and way of pointing. While Slow Sex Practices, Voice Dialogue, and the Bwiti tradition originate from very different worlds, they share a fundamental understanding: the soul is not...

Hello dear ones, We hope you all had a nourishing start to the new year, filled with love and meaningful connections. Mine began with a lot of self-care and spacious me time. Something I promised myself when I turned 40 last year: every January I gift myself hibernation—no computer work, fewer...

Dear ones, Before we enter the Christmas holidays, we want to take a moment with you to celebrate the Slow Sex team — and you as our community. This year, team building has taken up most of our energy — in the best possible way. The solidity of the core team is...

In intimate spaces—whether in sexuality, relationship work, or deep emotional processing—the quality of presence we bring determines the depth of connection that becomes possible. In my last Museletter, I explored the FAWN response as a survival strategy that often shows up in sex-positive spaces, creating confusion and, at times, deep...

Understanding our own survival strategies — what triggers them and how they play out in our relationships — is a vital foundation within the art of relating.The more we are in touch with our own strategies, the better we can recognize them in others. Especially for facilitators in sex-positive spaces, it’s absolutely...