Dear ones,
Before we enter the Christmas holidays, we want to take a moment with you to celebrate the Slow Sex team — and you as our community.
This year, team building has taken up most of our energy — in the best possible way. The solidity of the core team is absolutely crucial for the further development of the Slow Sex Movement. We can only hold others as deeply as we are willing to meet ourselves.
That means doing our own inner work. Getting to know our strategies. Staying curious about the vulnerabilities underneath them. This asks for real commitment — from every single person — to show up for their own process, again and again.
What I love most is how we mirror each other, how we hold one another accountable, and how we check in before and after every Slow Sex Practice.
A big, heartfelt thank you to the Slow Sex facilitators, space holders, and helpers. Your presence, integrity, and devotion are highly appreciated,
And — a big thank you to you.
To all Slow Sex Practitioners and MUSELETTER readers: without you, none of this would be possible. Thank you for showing up for the Practice. Thank you for taking the time to read what moves me, how I grow, and how my work continues to evolve.
Looking Ahead
The new year has some exciting things on the menu.
Portugal Gathering for Team Building, Slow Expansion & in depth Training
We will start with an intimate gathering and expanded team meeting on the farm where I live with my family in southern Portugal. We’re looking forward to deepening our connection — to ourselves, to one another, and to nature. During this time, I will train the core team in the fundamentals of Voice Dialogue, which will be the main tool we continue building our work on — alongside all the Slow, sexy stuff, of course 
Many of you have already asked when there will be a facilitator training open to the public. The Portugal training will hopefully lay the foundation for me to be inspired to create an official facilitator training for people who already work with groups and want to fine-tune their facilitation skills.
In this training you will be learning how to work with your own energetic field and the larger field we are all part of. All the information is already there. The art lies in learning how to listen, how to trust, and how to be guided by the invisible force that is constantly supporting us.
My intention is not to produce facilitators who all sound the same.
My wish is to support you in finding your own unique voice — to tap into your own qualities and lead authentically from within.
If this offering speaks to you, you’re warmly invited to express your interest by sending us an email. This helps us get a sense of who feels called and allows us to put you on an interest list. You’ll be the first to hear when something more concrete starts to take shape.
'Leading from Within' - This will also be the foundation of the workshop I’ll be offering on April 21st in Düsseldorf, Germany, together with Marisa Jenkins — transformational leader with 15+ years in senior and C-level roles across the globe. With a background in Corporate Finance, a postgraduate degree in Mental Health & Neuroscience and credentials as an INSEAD Executive Coach, she might be able to do the seemingly impossible - to introduce Slow Sex into the corporate world.
This might be a total hit… or a complete flop.
We’re preparing for both outcomes, haha.
Do you also work in the cooperate world and you live close to Düsseldorf? You can find more details on our Events page.
Traumanet
Another exciting development is the column I was invited to write for Traumanet — a platform offering accessible, free trauma education, founded by Anne Marsman, a respected and well-known voice in the trauma field. Traumanet is dedicated to translating complex trauma knowledge into language that can be understood by a broad public, with the clear intention of contributing to a more trauma-sensitive society.
What makes this invitation especially meaningful is that Traumanet reaches a very different audience than the one the Slow Sex Movement has primarily been known within so far. It speaks to therapists, educators, healthcare professionals, survivors, and people who may never have entered a sex-positive or embodiment space — yet who are deeply impacted by trauma in their personal or professional lives.
To bring the Slow Sex Movement into this context feels both tender and bold. It asks for nuance, responsibility, and humility — and it opens a door for Slow Sex to be understood not as a performance-based or sensational practice, but as a trauma-informed, relational, and deeply human approach to intimacy and aliveness.
I bow deeply to the courage it takes — on both sides — to create this bridge. Being invited into Traumanet feels like a true honour and a vote of trust. It is an opportunity to contribute to a broader cultural conversation about safety, pacing, consent, and embodied presence, and to help weave sexuality back into trauma education in a way that is grounded, respectful, and accessible.
This collaboration marks a meaningful step toward a shared vision: a more trauma-sensitive society, where sexuality is no longer excluded from the conversation — but held with care, awareness, and integrity.
Thank you, Anne and Frank, for the inspiring work you are doing together — on all levels.
Book Celebration
And then, maybe one of the highlights of the coming year: the celebration of my book, written in connection with my Voice Dialogue Master thesis, exploring how sexual fantasies can be used as a therapeutic tool. This will hopefully take place toward the end of 2026. You'll hear from us.
As you can see — a lot is moving, and there is much to look forward to.
A Small Christmas Practice
For when vulnerability gets activated
Christmas time can stir up a lot. Old dynamics, unspoken expectations, inner children longing for love — or protection.
If you notice yourself getting triggered, here’s a gentle practice you can try:
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Pause and place one hand on your heart and one on your lower belly.
Let your breath slow down. Feel the warmth of your hands. -
From a Voice Dialogue perspective, gently ask inside:
“Which part of me is activated right now?”
Is it a vulnerable child? A pleaser? A protector? A tired one? -
Let that part speak — silently or out loud.
No fixing. No analyzing. Just listening. -
Then shift into Slow Sex presence — with yourself.
Stay with sensation. Feel your breath, your body, the simple aliveness moving through you. This is not about arousal, but about connection. -
Offer a soft inner gesture:
Maybe a hug, a soothing touch, or a kind sentence like
“I’m here. You don’t have to do this alone.”
Even a few minutes of this can bring you back into relationship with yourself — and from there, with others.
In January, I’ll be doing two different detoxes — one for the mind and one for the body. That means we’ll take a little MUSELETTER break and be back in February.
Until then, we wish you a beautiful time with your loved ones. And if this season activates a lot — do the little Christmas Practice, stay close to your vulnerable child and remember to hug him / her / them often in between.
With much love,
Katjalisa 
