Relationship & Intimacy Coaching with Katjalisa
Break patterns and conditioned behavior
Learn how to communicate non-violently
Cultivate self love and self care
Enhance intimacy with yourself and your partner
Unblock stuck energy and harness life energy
Re-define sexuality
Relating is one of the most complex, beautiful, and challenging arts to master.
Like any art, it demands practice—ongoing, dedicated, and courageous practice. Especially in our closest relationships, we come face to face with our deepest vulnerabilities. The more intimacy there is, the more we activate our internal defense systems—fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. These are the loyal soldiers that guard the most tender parts of our being: the stories we’ve crafted about who we are and how we should be loved.
And then, again and again, we find ourselves in the same old loops.
Stuck. Bored. Frustrated. Exhausted.
You want out, but don’t know how.
Because you can’t change what you can’t see.
I am here to support you in breaking through.
To help you uncover and unravel the conditioned patterns, the survival strategies, the protective mechanisms that once served you—but now hold you back from the connection, vitality, and intimacy you long for.
This is deep transformational work.
You will learn how to:
Break through inherited patterns and conditioned behaviors
Communicate with presence and non-violence
Cultivate radical self-love and exquisite self-care
Enhance intimacy with yourself and others
Unblock stuck energy and harness life energy
Re-define sexuality as something deeply personal and sacred
We begin with you—because everything begins there.
And from that place of wholeness, your relationships begin to shift. Your nervous system recalibrates. Your capacity for connection expands.
My Approach
What makes me an effective facilitator, therapist and guide is that I walk the talk.
I am deeply committed to my own inner work. Always.
I am in ongoing mentorship and study, both personally and professionally.
I am part of an advanced study group under the supervision of Robert Stamboliev, who studied in person with Hal and Sidra Stone—the founders of Voice Dialogue—and who introduced the energetic dimension to their powerful method when he brought it to Europe.
I am also personally mentored by Francine Oomen, bestselling Dutch author, trauma expert, and Voice Dialogue coach—who is not just a mentor but also my platonic, inner work life partner.
I am a mother, life partner, friend, community builder, entrepreneur, activist, and lover of life.
And in all these roles, I am committed to showing up with honesty, integrity, and an open heart.
The Core of My Work: Voice Dialogue
Voice Dialogue is the foundation of my work. It is a powerful therapeutic method developed by psychologists Hal and Sidra Stone, based on the understanding that we are made up of many inner selves or sub-personalities—each with its own voice, energy, and worldview. There are parts of us that are dominant, and others that are disowned or exiled. Voice Dialogue helps us identify, befriend, and integrate these parts so we can make more conscious choices rather than being run by unconscious patterns.
By learning to recognize and relate to these inner voices—without judgment—we build a deeper, more nuanced relationship with ourselves. And from there, with others.
Sexual Fantasies as a Portal to Wholeness
A unique and powerful part of my work involves the therapeutic use of sexual fantasies.
I believe fantasies can be a sacred playground where disowned or suppressed parts of the psyche can safely emerge.
In sessions, we may:
- Deconstruct existing fantasies to understand what’s truly at play beneath the surface
- Or co-create tailored fantasies that give voice to hidden desires, unmet needs, and long-forgotten aspects of the self
I’ve been developing this approach under supervision at the Institute of Transformational Psychology (ITP), and the results have been mind-blowing—for clients and for myself.
I am currently writing my first book:
“Sexual Fantasies as a Portal to Wholeness”
This work explores how fantasies, when approached consciously, can unlock deep self-awareness, help us reclaim lost parts of ourselves, and enrich our relational and erotic lives.
It will be a powerful resource not only for therapists and coaches, but for anyone who wants to meet themselves more fully.
For Individuals and Couples
I work with individuals and couples who are ready to:
- Step out of reactive loops
- Create more conscious, embodied ways of relating
- Explore non-traditional relational dynamics
- Deepen their sexual connection
- Live a life that aligns with their truth, vitality, and sacred contract
Relating doesn’t have to be so hard.
It can become a space of nourishment, inspiration, creativity, pleasure and peace.
Session Details
Deep Dive Sessions are rich, intuitive, and deeply embodied.
They weave together my toolkit from years of training in somatic therapy, trauma education, sexual anthropology, breath & bodywork, Slow Sex, and Voice Dialogue.
Every session is unique—crafted in real time based on who you are and what is needed.
For in-person sessions, the journey usually unfolds over 2–3 hours, though I don’t work with the clock next to me. The process is sacred, and we close when it feels complete—when the experience is round.
It’s also possible to work with me online. These sessions last around 1.5 hours, always with space to take longer if the process calls for it.
A series of at least three sessions is recommended, allowing for integration and real transformation—especially with the support of customized Home Play practices between sessions.
Energy Investment
€450 per Deep Dive Session + After Care
(Excl. VAT and studio rent) €175 for online sessions (individuals) €195 for online sessions (couples)
Curious?
Let’s connect.
I offer a free 20-minute discovery call to feel into whether we’re a fit.
Message me directly via WhatsApp, Telegram or Signal:
+31 624 555 311
This is deep work. It’s sacred. It’s sweaty. It’s sexy.
It’s the most rewarding work you’ll ever do.
And I’m here to walk with you.
~ Katjalisa
I have been working with Katjalisa for only a couple of months now, and it is incredible how much she has helped me. She has the ability to very quickly grasp the essence of what is going on within me and to see the bigger picture of it all. I feel deeply understood by her and I can open up completely in her presence. She hel[ped me to get in touch with my vulnerability, to look into old wounds, to see my strategies, triggers and patterns. Only in a short period of time I got stronger, wiser and happier by working with Katjalisa. Her help has been invaluable for my personal growth. Moreover, she was really there for me when I was going through a tough period. Besides the one on one sessions, she offers amazing after care. She deeply cares about me and my process. With her, you’re not facing the problems alone anymore.
-Oliver
“Just as you can pick out the voice of a loved one in the tumult of a noisy room, or spot your child's smile in a sea of faces, intimate connection allows recognition in an all-too-often anonymous world. This sense of connection arises from a special kind of discrimination, a search image that comes from a long time spent looking and listening. Intimacy gives us a different way of seeing, when visual acuity is not enough.”
For one year, my partner and I have been working with Katjalisa. It has been the most rewarding year in our relationships. For a long time we were stuck in each other's patterns, triggering each other and not having the tools to get out of this spiral.
As a result of the 1-1 sessions and guided homeplay with Katjalisa, we have a much deeper understanding of ourselves and each other and have been able to carefully build a much more nourishing relationship. We are no longer stuck and feel closer than ever. I am very grateful for Katjalisa her open, playful, honest guidance.
-Emily
